After considering the previous sections of this site, you might want to see some videos and read some stories. Through them you’ll “meet” other LDS parents who have raised—or are currently raising—gay kids. You will also benefit from the stories of gay LDS adults who are living full and meaningful lives—but going about it in a variety of ways. Their stories can help you see your own child’s future in a positive light. Moreover, you can’t fully appreciate the range of gospel-focused options available to you and to your child until you become aware of these stories.
START THIS VIDEO PAGE BY WATCHING THESE MORMON FAMILIES WHO TELL THEIR STORIES OF ACCEPTANCE & LOVE
Consider watching first the 1:40 minute introduction and then the 4-8 minute videos on this site first posted in April, 2014
……then continue with the following——
1. Family Acceptance Project Video: Familes Are Forever
Mormon family featured in a video by the Family Acceptance Project highlighting some of the challenges facing LGBT Mormon youth and their families.
2. Ty Mansfield & Hermia Lyly: What (and What Not) to Say to Someone Who Experiences Same-sex Attraction from LDSLiving Magazine
3. Andrea Carver: Far Between interview
Growing up, Andrea was her younger brother’s biggest advocate. Watching her brother come to terms with his homosexuality and learning to openly express his feelings prepared Andrea to better support her son during his coming out process years later. Andrea’s son vigorously worked to erase his attraction to men through overzealous missionary work and a well-intentioned yet unsuccessful temple marriage.
4. LGBT BYU students: It Gets Better at BYU
- This video was created by the Far Between team to show Mormon LGBT youth who may be feeling alone and afraid, that they are not alone and life can get better with hope for happiness and love in their life. It’s sponsored by USGA (Understanding Same-Gender Attraction) which is an unofficial group of BYU students, faculty, and friends who wish to strengthen families and the BYU community by providing a place for open, respectful discussions on the topic of same-gender attraction.
5. Suicide prevention youtube from LGBT BYU students: Just Be There
Video made as part of a campaign against suicide by USGA, BYU’s unofficial group for LGBT students.
7. John Dehlin’s TEDx lecture: John Dehlin Delivers A TEDx Talk On Being An Ally
TEDx talk given November 28, 2013, by John Dehlin on being an ally to the LGBT Mormons including a review of some of his research on LGBT Mormons.
7. Voices of Hope is a repository of voices of faithful Latter-day Saints dealing with these issues, sharing their stories and their faith —why they’ve chosen to embrace the restored gospel and how they’ve found peace and resolution in that decision.
8. It Gets Better—Mormon Family and Friends: It Gets Better
Members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints share their stories of love, faith, and support for their homosexual brothers and sisters. This video was produced by the Far Between team as a way for members of the church to share feelings of empathy, love, and hope.
9. Becky Mackintosh: Healing Hearts, Saving Lives website
Enjoy watching this talk from Becky Mackintosh at the 2014 Affirmation Conference.
10. Thomas Montgomery: It’s Complex
Thomas Montgomery writes about the complexities he and his family face as Mormons as they journey with their gay son.
11. Sara Cook: My Experience as a Parent
Sara Cook, a Mormon mother of 2 gay sons, writes about her journey and resolution.
12. Marolyn Frogley, Wanda Karford, and Max Berryessa: REUNION, Issue #3
These Mormon parents of LGBT family members share their stories in the LDS Family Fellowship Newsletter.
13. Marybeth Raynes, LCSW: Suggestions to Families and Leaders When a Loved One Comes Out
Presentation given at LDS Family Fellowship.
14. Carol Lynn Pearson, poet and playwright: Presentation on the Hero’s Journey at the 2013 LGBT –Affirmation Conference
If you are a parent who has a son or daughter who is further along in the process of living as gay or lesbian, perhaps one who has left the Church, you will find this presentation will give you insight into his/her journey. Carol Lynn is perhaps the best known and most read poet in Mormonism. She also has been an early and steadfast pioneer who as a faithful Church member has helped transform our LDS community. At BYU she met and married Gerald Pearson, who later left the marriage because he was gay, but when he died of AIDS she nursed him through his last days. Her daughter, Emily, also married a gay man, but that marriage too ended after the birth of two of Carol Lynn’s grandchildren.
You will hear Carol Lynn speak on the vital themes that appear in her recent book The Hero’s Journey of the Gay and Lesbian Mormon. She also speaks on the risk of suicide that can occur for those on this journey. Carol Lynn has also written a play on the suicide of a gay Mormon . The story unfolds on stage via the conversation of his surviving Mom, Dad and partner. It has had a highly successful run on stage and is soon to be a movie. Facing East
15. LEAD With Love: Helpful film
This 35 minute film is designed to answer the question, what do I do if my child is gay? The goal is to provide information, comfort and guidance. It follows four families going through this process. It also interviews psychologists, clergy and teachers who answer the most commonly asked questions.
16. Anonymous…. Let’s Talk (About Suicide)
Some families feel the need to withhold love to show they don’t approve, or may simply find it difficult to fully embrace their LGBT children out of fear of sending the wrong message. Please consider this touching report from a gay returned missionary son who is now in advanced professional training and speaks of his agony and desperate desire to find understanding and love from his family.
17. Straight From The Heart: Helpful film
1994 Academy Award nominated documentary film telling the story of families who describe their experience with a gay or lesbian child, including LDS parents, Wayne and Sandra Schow (24 minutes).
18. LDS Homosexuality – Parts 1 – 3
19. Family Fellowship Response to Elder Oaks and Wickman 2006 Interview
In 2006 Elder Oaks and Elder Wickman posted an interview on the Church website which is still there. The summary listed here is a response from parents in Family Fellowship to that interview. There were some very encouraging developments in the Church position as part of that interview. There were also some concerns as addressed by these parents.